Things they never told us homeschooled girls...

  I don't really know how exactly to lead into this. 

I suppose what I want to do is impart some forewarning/ advise to my fellow  girls out there.

Consider this my "what to expect when things get serious, and on to your married life.".

Ok, yes I know I am not married and I am certainly not the expert on dating, my past record is very very clear.

There are some things I have learned in the past months that I wish I had known were unavoidable.

Over the last 3 months I have been living in the same household as Andres.

For 2 months I was living in his family's house and for a while now we have both been living on my parents property [ in different building but with common kitchen and living room and such].

We may not be married, but we are living a life similar to marriage except for sharing a room and bed and the physical stuff.

I know a lot of girls think that those things will be the biggest adjustments they will have to work through with their husbands.

I am learning that no amount of books I read in my teen years, and all the youth speakers I listened to failed to tell me some big things.

Thankfully Andres is so patient with me that it is all working out.

Here is what you need to realize whether you are in a relationship or not.

He will see those "crazy" moments we usually have when we are alone.

He will see these moments.

No matter what ideas you have in your head of you being a super cool, chill relaxed girl that doesn't freak out over silly thing.

It is inevitable that you will have one (or two or three) of those moments in front of him.

THis is because up until you are in the same house with him you had a lot of that alone time where you could have those crazy moments in your head. 

Once you are together all the time, he will start to ask you what you are thinking or conveniently be in the room when you are overwhelmed by something stupid.

In my case, he was helping move furniture on the day that I decided to freak out over the different height of the furniture in my room and the lack of balance. 

Another thing.

He will be there on your ugly days, your crampy days and your super wonky days.

You know when you are still in the new stages with a guy you may cancel plans with him on an ugly day.

You will also suffer through the cramps with a smile on your face and a quick laugh at anything funny he says, but as soon as he leaves you crawl to your bed and roll around in pain and whine to yourself.

The days you are super crazy and decide you are going to go around karate chopping everything that is about your height and making kung fu sounds,

HE

WILL

BE

THERE!!!!

Ideally he will say you are so beautiful on your "ugly days".

Ideally he will worry about you all day and offer to get you anything to relieve your pain on your cramp days.

And Ideally he will just play along and not mind too much if you decide to karate chop him, and his friends, and the dog, and the door jam and well the air.

Just remember that he will be there and  relationships, no matter how perfect, will not cure you of your wonky-ness.

(it certainly does not mature you any faster)

lets see, what else??

He will witness your cooking and creating fails.

He will be there when you decide to cook something new and it ends up tasting like it was cooked in the dirty garbage can.

It is not like when you were single and you would be in the kitchen late at night concocting something. 

Throwing your favorite foods into a pot even though you have never heard of such a combo before.

This time you cannot just pick out the parts you like and throw the rest away;

he will be there with you expecting a helping even bigger than yours. 

He will also be there sprawled out on the nearest piece of furniture cradling his super upset tummy.

This one might be straight forward, but it is still a good reminder. 

No matter how interesting you think your friends lives are, he will most likely not care to talk about it.

Most girl talk is exactly that, girl talk. 

I cannot tell you how many times I start telling Andres something thinking it is the most exciting thing and he fails to respond how I expected.

I will be all like "Can you believe so and so is dating this person? That person is so much older, or so much something."

You are expecting a "OMGSH that is the craziest thing I have ever heard. How different and well crazy!"

however

Andres is like "well they are obviously happy so it is fine.".

Or

This happens all the TIME!!!

We are walking through a store and I get all excited and I say "OH LOOK AT THAT CUTE HAND BAG!!DON'T YOU THINK IT IS SO CUTE!? I LOVE IT!!!"

then he just says "I think it is fine.".

NO COMMENTS ON THE BRILLIANT COLOR COMBO, OR THE PERFECTLY POSITIONED BOWS OR ANYTHING!! 

HE WILL BE THERE WHEN YOU BURP!!!!!

So much for your cute and delicate act. 

He just heard you belch like a mountain lion!

(I don't actually know if mountain lions burp.) 

You know that he heard it because lets face it, you just drank your first can of soda in a year and the neighborhood now knows the real reason why you stopped drinking soda.

He will see you get in a fight with someone close to you. 

 This photo cracked me up a little.

He will be there when punches are thrown. 

Of course we are girls so our punches are not typically physical.

Though we feel confident since we have been practicing our karate moves ever since watching Jaden Smith's the Karate Kid.

He will hear all of your complaints about this person and he will have to decide how to proceed.

He will hear you talk like you are "SO TOTALLY RIGHT" and that other person is obviously out of their mind. 

They will have to try to figure out who is actually right and how to treat you and possibly the other person. 

Even though he is your boyfriend (or whatever he is) he may not be on your side by default.

  He may even have to give you a lot of alone time to figure it out and blow off steam.

He will bother you when you are in the middle of something important.

You know that mental image where you are sitting there in one room consumed in something while he sits in another corner of the room engrossed in a book or something? 

Yeah....umm.. that can happen, but it doesn't as often as you want.

you will be in the middle of reading something, or washing dishes, or anything and then he will decide to come hug you or snuggle up with you, or poke you.

Tonight I was doing dishes when Andres comes up from behind me and hooks is arm through mine and starts poking my face and sticking his fingers almost up my nose just to bother me.

 

But all this said, it is worth it.

Every second of it.

If you find the right guy he will love your good, bad, and ugly and you will also love his good, bad, and ugly.